Hey Loves! With our five year wedding anniversary around the corner, I wanted to share some things we’ve learned that have helped us keep up a happy and healthy marriage! I remember reading somewhere that the first five years are some of the hardest years you’ll experience and it scared me so much! First off…don’t be scared like I was! A marriage is what you make it and as long as both you and your partner are willing to work for it, these can be some of the most amazing days of your life!
So here are five things that have helped us so much!
Be Honest
We’ve learned that it is SO important to be completely honest and open with each other to function properly! We never hide anything (even the little details) and we make sure to discuss every issue or situation openly. This can be from finances to feelings. Always be honest!
Compromise
My husband and I are extremely compatible and we like to joke that he’s the guy version of me and vice versa. BUT, we still have our differences! Sometimes he thinks things should be a certain way and I feel completely opposite. The biggest act that has kept us from fighting is how well we’ve learned to compromise. Finding a way to “meet in the middle” has saved us so much time and stress!
Choose Your Battles
Sometimes circumstances are just not worth getting worked up over! We try not to nag one another about little things. It comes with time but learning how to choose when to react is such a valuable tool. We’ve learned that it takes much more energy to be angry rather than just move on and choose to be happy!
Compliments
This may seem like a small gesture but it goes a long way! Never stop complimenting your significant other. Even a small compliment each day can make someone feel appreciated and loved š
Also, it’s been proven that people respond better to positive reinforcement rather than negative reinforcement. For example: If your husband isn’t taking out the trash as often as you’d like, instead of fighting him about it, compliment/praise him when he does take it out! He will be more likely to keep doing it when he feels appreciated.
Never Leave Angry
We always make sure to not stay mad at each other for too long! We have also made a promise to never go to bed angry or leave the house angry. This has helped because it makes us sort out our issues quickly and get back to enjoying our life and just having fun!
Thank you so much for reading! Have a wonderful rest of your week!
You said this perfectly. I couldn’t agree more. I get asked this question alot and I tell them the same thing. In the beginning it was hard, but you fight for it. And now that we are going to on 12 years with 6 years married in September. We are still a team and are stronger than ever.
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That is so amazing! I love hearing about marriage stories from other couples and how they manage to keep a strong marriage. Happy early anniversary to you two!